Ok girls (and maybe some guys) Leave in conditioner question

I used to have really long hair and just using conditioner didn't help neither did leave-in. I found that putting conditioner in while in the shower then combing my hair out with the cconditioner in really helped a lot. And it's something she can do herself....

I have curly, thick hair and I use both. Curly hair, especially thick curly hair has a tendency to get very dry, so the more moisture the better. Rinsing with the coolest water she can take will be the best thing! I co-sign infusium 23.

i dont know what your budget is; but this is the ultimate hair care product - it's a cleansing conditioner called when. it comes with a money-back guarantee. because it's a shampoo and conditioner in one...you end up using less product. you also end-up not needing to use any other kind of extra/deep/after conditioners or detanglers. so, because of this, you do not spend as much money on a ton of other products that end up not working. it's foamless. it's amazing on hair and you will notice it after just one use!

here is the link www.wenhaircare.com/ i order my larger size bottles from www.qvc.com/cgen/render.aspx

Ok you don't have to use the rinse out conditioner with the leave in unless her hair is really stubborn. I reccomend the johnson and johnson detangler spray for after the bath we use it on my nieces and its great.

yes i know i am of the male species and probably shouldent be commenting on topics like these and that my manliness will probably be taken into question lol but i use a good conditioner from aaussie ... its cleanse and mend i believe but it comes in a tube thats about 5 inches long and about the diamater of a small can of mushrooms all ya do is put it in the hair after washing it and before washing the rest of ya and after a few minutes rinse it out with warm water i know the label says to cold rinse it afterwords but its not nescesary well i dunno hopefully it helps .... oh now that i think about it i believe jhonson and jhonson makes some kind of no more tangles spray or something i dont know but i think i remember seeing it

My mom ask me to try to find Bridles and Bows hair products last known address Laguna Hills, Ca. I drove by the address and it is now an alternative energy company. Does anybody know if they are still out there? She would really love to go back to their products.

I've used the leave in conditioner for a few days now and I'm pretty happy with it so far. I might give the regular conditioner a shot tonight to see how that goes. Baby steps. Thanks everyone.  

"I'm just like you only shorter."

Well, I didn't read through all the responses either, but as a chick with long hair, I have my share of suggestions.

One, looks like most suggest not to go with anything fancy. Suave, Tresemme, Infusium, Garnier (she'll love the smell of that) will all give decent results.  

Also, anything that says it has any amount of protein in it will eventually dry out her hair. If she's not going to "rotate" products (using different brands), don't use anything that calls itself a protein formula. Protein is good for maybe weekly treatments on adult, color treated hair. But for a kid and used each shampoo, it will eventually dry it out and make it unruly. Protein is to be used sparingly. I used a Fekkai protein leave in for a while, loved it but it "stopped working" after a couple weeks and my hair seemed fried. My stylist filled me in on the protein issue. Of course, you're not going spend $ on Fekkai for a kid.

To answer the issue of rinse out or leave in conditioner, BOTH. Think of the rinse out as long term, leave in as short term. Rinse out will smooth it gradually over time. Leave in will make it combable when wet (and never brush wet hair - good way to break it - comb only when wet which is why you can't condition a kids long hair too much).

And since we're talking a kid here, we're not worried about styling per se, are we? I mean, she doesn't need it to hold a style done with rollers. So in my opinion, you can't over condition it - the smoother it stays the better.

I also firmly believe in rotating products. Using a couple different lines prevents buildup. I'd also avoid anything volumizing for a kid since that will just leave buildup too.  

My two cents, for what it's worth. 

Thanks for all the input. I'm gonna go with shampoo and leave in conditioner only. She's six and I want her to be able to do as much for herself as possible. I even have her comb her own hair on weekends. I still have to finish it but it's a start. Tonight will be first try. One thing I also do is at night I braid her hair. In the morning I take it down and it combs right through with little effort. Hopefully the leave in conditioner will  help with some of my combing problems after showers. Thanks everyone.

"I'm just like you only shorter."

Okay, I didnt read all the answers...so this might be a repeat.

My former stepdaughter had long fine hair.... at 5 years old her hair was almost 4 ft long....since it was my decision to have her hair long, her mother put me "in charge" of hair maintenance. Tangles were horrible.

So this is what worked for us. One, we used TREsemme' products only.

Two... Shampoo and rinse..... Then I would cover the top layer of hair with conditioner....then starting at the BOTTOM, comb through it,using a comb with teeth wide apart...do that until all hair is conditioned.....

Then Rinse in the same manner.....As the shower water ran down her hair, I would start combing at the bottom, working my way up until all conditioner is gone..... No TANGLES!!!!!!! and well rinsed....

All that being said.....My wife now, her hair resembles a Lions mane of red curls.....What TREsemme' she cant rinse out, she leaves in. No harm done. Her hair is pretty much flawless....

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i have very curly, thick, dry hair so i know how hard it can be! i'd say use a regular conditioner (when i was younger i used good old finesse) and comb it while the conditioner is in her hair, rinse and let it air dry. in my experience if you comb out curly hair after that it just gets frizzy. at least mine does and it ain't so pretty!

My Opinion is to use regular conditioner on her hair. Be sure to rinse out completely (with cold water) as cool as she can handle. Leaving conditioner in hair will make it harder to comb. You might be wasting money on the deep conditioners. These only really work when the hair is open ...like after a coloring. So use any type of regular conditioner and rinse out completely. Then use a spray on hair detangler. Spray on towel dried hair. Aussie seems to work pretty good. Just find a good Spray on hair detangler and that will give you a nice and easy comb thru! Hope that helps!

I would use Pantene Shampoo and Conditioner in your daugher's hair it's not too strong and it rinses out pretty well, leaving the hair nice and shiny...and also...USE INFUSIUM 23 FOR NORMAL HAIR....it's like a hair strengthener...it will help keep moisture in her hair as well...i swear by it!!! it's ok to use a leave in conditioner after a regular one but you absolutely must rinse out the first conditioner if the instructions say to do so....that can be damaging to your daughters hair...

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Since this is a little girl we are talking about I would say to use Suave Professionals Healthy Curls conditioner (you said she has curls) and rinse it just a couple of times so a bit of it stays in her hair.  Afterwards just scrunch her hair in the towel, don't tossle it as that makes it knot up.  Then use a detangling spray- they have kids Suave and Johnson and Johnson products that are specifically for tangles.  I also would use something like Bouncy Spray, made by ISO, which can be found at your local salon so her curls will be bouncy and shiny.  Oh...and try not to use a hairdryer and if you do use the defuser attachment.

So it sounds like I can do either both or just leave in. Hubby, do you mean "Mane and Tail" perhaps. When I was like 15 I had a mullet. (Don't judge me.) I used Mane and Tail cause my parents had horses. Man those were the good old days. I think I'll take the kid by the store tomorrow and look into the Dove leave in. I sure do like cheap. Thanks.  

"I'm just like you only shorter."

 I have very dry-curly hair too, so i feel i can answer.  For the last 10 years I have used a leave-in conditioner only.. or sometimes both - but until I started keeping my hair very short, i could not leave the house without the leave-in or i would get the 'poofy' look.. I used one of those thick "horse-hair" leave-in conditioners i think it was called "bridles and bows" ..

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I'm basing my answer on my boyfriend's hair.  Use both, if possible.  He has very curly,very dry hair, and it's next to impossible to brush or comb.  It just grows.  The only time he can comb it is when it's wet with conditioner.  After he towel dries his hair, he uses a leave in conditioner.  I can't get photobucket to open for me, or I'd send you a pic.  Dove makes very good leave in conditioners, and they aren't really expensive.

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