That's what's happening with me at facebook. Some idiotic waste of space managed to get pictures of me at a social function and started threatening to post them on his site to flame me. I don't know if he's posted the pics yet. At least none of my friends've mentioned the pictures. Anyways, I won't even go into the details about the pictures, but if you've got any advice about dealing with this, please share. Sometimes I feel as though I can't afford to let anyone feast their eyes on those pictures out of protection for myself. I won't delete my account because that won't do anything to stop this idiot, so if you've got any ways of dealing with him, please say so.
What would you do if somebody threatened to post pictures of you that you didn't want posted?
Submitted by Steve_Wolff on June 17, 2007 - 3:02pm.
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Re: What would you do if somebody threatened to post pictures of
June 20, 2007 - 11:42pm
The guy is part of a college network--the only network he's part of. Unfortunately, because he's part of a college network, I can't join his network. If I were to become a member of his network through a friend (I'm probably bound to know somebody that's got a college e-mail from his school), would you advise me to do so or advise me not to? At this point, it would be the only possibility and safe way to see if he's got pics of me. Plus, I could find out information about him for incentive in case he's posted (or posts) the pics or finds something else that can potentially embarrass me or benefit him to my expense. If you've got any more suggestions, please share. Thanks.
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Re: What would you do if somebody threatened to post pictures of
June 21, 2007 - 8:42am
http://www.newsfactor.com/story.xhtml?story_id=0010003B3NMT&page=1
I personally think that everyone here should take a look at this. It looks to me like there is no clear cut way to remove incendiary comments or pics, but it's becoming more endemic.
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Re: What would you do if somebody threatened to post pictures of
June 19, 2007 - 11:35pm
Already complaining to the people in charge of facebook already. His messages to me are threatening. But you are right--there needs to be something there to merit my complaints. I could get friends on my side but don't know if that'll work. It would be nice to just to get a look at his site without requesting to be his friend, but the best I can do is find a way to make him writhe even if the process doesn't involve getting the stuff from his site.
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Re: What would you do if somebody threatened to post pictures of
June 20, 2007 - 9:05am
It's probably too bad you threatened him "tons of times".
There is legal recourse. Providing that he posts something that directly slanders your character and is untrue.
I'm no lawyer and this post is meant to direct you toward a new way of thinking. Perhaps some good documentation and thirty something dollars at the local courthouse may change his way of thinking.
If he wakes up one morning and finds that he's been served a court summons on the grounds that he slandered your character just might bring about some rapid deletion.
Research it and see what you come up with.
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Re: What would you do if somebody threatened to post pictures of
June 18, 2007 - 7:39pm
Although I'm not on Facebook, I have found that a little looking into Terms of Service gives you the right to report his profile IF he posts the photos of you. If you want to get really specific, it's essentially in violation to post a photo of someone without their permission. But here's how Facebook addresses it and the links to where I got the info:
Facebook Terms of Service - http://www.facebook.com/terms.php
"....you agree not to use the Service or the Site to:
-upload, post, transmit, share, store or otherwise make available any content that we deem to be harmful, threatening, unlawful, defamatory, infringing, abusive, inflammatory, harassing, vulgar, obscene, fraudulent, invasive of privacy or publicity rights, hateful, or racially, ethnically or otherwise objectionable;"
It continues under User Content Posted on the Site:
"You may not post, transmit, or share User Content on the Site or Service that you did not create or that you do not have permission to post."
And on Facebook's Code of Conduct page - http://www.facebook.com/codeofconduct.php
"Inappropriate Content -
While we believe users should be able to express themselves and their point of view, certain kinds of speech simply do not belong in a community like Facebook. Therefore, you may not post or share Content that:
* is obscene, pornographic or sexually explicit
* depicts graphic or gratuitous violence
* makes threats of any kind or that intimidates, harasses, or bullies anyone
* is derogatory, demeaning, malicious, defamatory, abusive, offensive or hateful"
So if I were you, I would contact Facebook and keep with a complaint process. Then again, you can't complain about something that's not there - so only once you know he's posted them. Get some friends on your side too, to report him.
And next time, keep the power in your hands. The photos are only "ammo" for him because you let him know you care. If you had the same "whatever I don't care" attitude that he had about HIS photos, they wouldn't be as valuable. Reverse psychology does work - he might be scared to death you'd post the photos of him... but letting on he is only makes them more valuable, if that makes sense.
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Re: What would you do if somebody threatened to post pictures of
June 18, 2007 - 12:43am
I would do that. One problem--I already did and he didn't hesitate, saying that he wouldn't care. The only kind of embarrassing pictures that would make him crumble are nudes, which facebook doesn't allow. I ain't his friend nor will I ever be. I tried hitting him up and he didn't respond. This guy will get what's coming to him, but there needs to be a way. I've tried threatening him tons of times and either he won't believe me or won't budge. Writing "so and so" is gay or "so and so" hit on your girlfriend won't help. The war between him and I won't end, so don't expect it to. Worst yet, he ain't even in my network--the only network he's part of is a college network.
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